Hey, guess what? This post has absolutely nothing to do with dogs. But I’ll throw in a couple dog photos to make this easier to swallow.
Here are three things you need to know about this year’s Presidential election:
- Women lost something this week. Whether you understand it or not, whether you accept it or not, the women in this country have experienced a profound and gut-wrenching loss. And we are desperately in need of some time and space to grieve. If you have any sense of history, you know that Hillary Clinton is our champion, as are several of her feminist peers. You know that this country, despite its deep-seated racist history, gave black men the right to vote 50 years before it begrudgingly surrendered the same right to women. Reconciling the fact that this country is more than fifty percent female and yet hasn’t had a single female president, all while male presidents and predominantly male legislators and supreme court justices make decisions about the female body, is so fucked up and horrifying it’s hard to put into words.
- We voted yes on rape culture. Yesterday morning, I watched Ta-Nehisi Coates deliver a profound keynote address at the Inbound conference in Boston after a sleepless, surreal night. He threw out his planned speech on education and delivered a frank and somber commentary on our new world. Just prior to his speech, the following video was played on the main screen for 8,000+ attendees: His opening remarks noted the young girls in this video and what this election meant for them. One of his first comments: “Last night, we normalized sexual assault.” Several attendees walked out because he had the audacity to speak frankly about the reality of a Donald Trump presidency rather than cater to a room full of marketing and sales people hoping for a sugarcoated speech. Several of us stood and applauded him.
- Hillary Clinton is a badass who’s silently endured the most grotesque set of double standards ever conceived. If Hillary (with the exact same set of professional qualifications, personal history and political baggage) was a man, she would have been voted into office this week in a swift and decisive victory. Many of her critics will argue with and deny that fact, but their inability to grasp that doesn’t make it any less true. Because Hillary has a vagina, dared to focus on preparing to be President rather than just paying lip surface to it, and refused to bow to the likability test, she’s been labeled a threat and sold wholesale to the uninformed as a modern day Medusa. This piece by Megan Garber sums it up rather well: Samantha Bee makes the case for Clinton
There are plenty of reasons to be upset about this week’s election results. If you are female, non-white, an immigrant, a Muslim, a refugee, Transgender, a student of history, someone who believes in climate change, or simply human, you have cause for concern. We all have a reason to be afraid in this new reality.
But like Coates also pointed out yesterday, we all need to take responsibility for these election results. You can’t dismiss and disenfranchise a whole swathe of the population in denial of our long, dark history with discrimination based on race, class, gender and religion and not expect some sort of backlash. We all have to own this. And if I’m being honest, I’m far more put out by the self-involved third party voters who handed Trump the election in states like Michigan than I am by those who actually voted for Trump.
For now, I’m taking comfort in small moments with female friends, and lots of alcohol. I am forever grateful for the women in my life.
Long story, short: We will move forward. We will survive this. We will regroup and recover. But for now, please let us ladies have our moment together to cry, scream, grieve and heal without your bullshit commentary. Because we’ve fucking earned it.
Clinton is 100% correct: This is painful. And it will be for a long time.